Saturday, February 27, 2010

My Post Valentine's Message

I am a fan of Valentine's Day simply because I have someone to celebrate with :p. What I mean is I have my loving family, friends and ...? hehehe! Being a simple person, I've always wanted to have a very simple date on my valentines day. whew! :) ... Like, be with your love ones, watch movie or just simply being with them.. Though, I've a lot of experiences on valentines date but this year is the BEST. :)

I was shocked and surprised for the date/moment given by someone who really close to my heart. wow. cheeezzy! Many thanks to that special someone. He made my day full of surprises and excitements. He made me happy. Totally happy and I feel that world is awesome to be with. I've realized that life is not unfair! People are unfair. hehehe! My Heart's Day this year was unique and unforgettable. So sweet of you special someone. :)

P.S, thanks for all the gifts... the gift of love... hehehe I treasure it so much. Thank you! :)

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Happy Valentine

Let love flow freely
Love believes what cannot be possible. And then love makes it happen.
Love is the reason that defies all reason. Love unites even those who could never otherwise agree.
Give love not because it's your obligation. Give love because you can.
Offer love not because you seek some treasure in return. Offer love, and you'll find that it is the treasure.

When you're not sure what to say, let love do the talking. If you can't decide which way to go, decide to act from a perspective of love. Love connects, empowers, illuminates and understands like nothing else can. Let love flow freely from every moment in your life.

-- Ralph Marston

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Love is Overrated

I'm going to start a new feature on my blog and it'll be about my unpopular opinions. But what qualifies as 'unpopular'? Hmmm, let's say if at least 60% of the general public think otherwise, then I will be the unpopular one, haha!

Since it's my first time, I'm gonna talk about something that would probably solicit much violent reactions from you my dear blog visitors and blog hoppers. That should translate to more comments, haha!

"Love is Overrated."

The first time I thought of this was when I received a message from a friend asking to write something about the 'philosophy on love'. Of course, I could stick to the artsy pantsy cliches like love is blind or love is never jealous, etc.. I didn't want to pick out something from books or the movies. So bigla ko na lang naisip, love is overrated. :)

As expected, whenever we saw each other, they would react to my testimony.. Common initial reactions were, "Ang bitter mo naman yata!". On the contrary. Although I must admit, I went through my own periods of bitterness on love, hehe.. whew! My heart has its own share of 'down' moments. But at that time, I really wasn't bitter anymore. But I'm not saccharine about it either.

Before you judge me, hehe, let me explain myself.

Love is overrated for me because I hate the way most people equate happiness with love alone.. "self-centered".. I mean, there's more to life than finding 'the one' for you. If you're in love, then good for you. But if you're not, it should not take it toll on your self-perception either.

To love is probably the best thing that could happen in your life. Note that my operative word is 'probably', hehe. You see, I haven't been most lucky when it comes to this. Reciprocated love is too elusive for me, hehe. But I'm okay with it. These days, you won't ever find me sulking up in one corner, wondering haplessly why the hell I'm still single at (*th) sshHh secret.. hehe :) Like I said, minsan din akong naging bitter melon. But I'm through that phase. I'm through feeling bad about myself when I shouldn't be at all.

Hindi ko alam kung kailan ako magkaka relation muli. Feeling ko na nga, tatanda na akong dalaga, haha! But while I'm still single, I'm gonna enjoy my life to the fullest with my family. For now, I'd rather vent all the 'love' I could give to my family and some friends, who all deserve it. But when I finally meet 'the one', yeeee :) I'm gonna make sure I'm gonna enjoy its perks to the fullest either. Pana-panahon lang iyan.. :)

Sabi ko na eh, this topic is gonna elicit some warmer response, because apparently, everyone has an opinion on love, hehe.

Anyway, I'm gonna clear something, lest I be mistaken for a love grinch! =p

I'm not saying that LOVE SUCKS. I'm just saying it's kinda OVERRATED though only the people who don't know what love is would think LOVE is overrated.. Because I hate people who sulk in dark corners just because they weren't so lucky in love. I've been through that phase. But now that I have a better perspective, I have realized that feeling sorry for oneself is one of the worst things that you could do to yourself.

Having said this, I also hate people who over-grieve their lost loves. I know, mending a broken heart is not an easy task. In fact, it takes gargantuan effort to do so. But given enough time to let yourself heal, you should be okay. But after that mourning period, you should go back to appreciating your self and not let past heartbreaks ruin what you have at present. Life must go on, move forward!

Lastly, I think I should have said, "Romance is overrated", hehe! Because love comes in many forms. =p

Monday, February 22, 2010

Life and Love

Just wanna share this story:

"Don't let your love one's go... they're hard to find!"


LIFE & LOVE

My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady
nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad
shoulders.

Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would
have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me
loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my
restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a
relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like
a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite;
his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic
moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a
divorce.

"Why?" he asked, shocked.

"I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!" I
answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought, with a
lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only
increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his
predicament, so what else could I expect from him?

And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?"

Somebody said it right... It's hard to change a person's personality,
and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question.
If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.

Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff,
and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death.
Will you do it for me?"

He said: "I will give you your answer tomorrow...."

My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper
with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining
table near the front door, that goes....

My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but....please allow
me to explain the reasons further.....

This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs,
and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that
I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs
to rush home to open the door for you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to
save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches
every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

Thursday, February 18, 2010

An Angel To Me

Author: MAPA

The moment I opened my heart and let you in
I saw this great love starting to begin.

I opened my eyes to a vision of you
I hope, I pray your feelings are true.

I have loved and I have paid the cost
And I have felt the pain of the love I lost.

But, now, I think I have truly found
An Angel who walks upon the ground.

You go beyond all limits for me
Just to show your love endlessly.

I could search my whole life through
And never find another "you".

You are so special that I wanted you to know
I truly, completely love you.

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Embracing Imperfection : Burned Toast

Sharing Thoughts.


"A story of a girl."

"When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed!

Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember Watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite! When I got Up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad For burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he said: 'Baby, I love burned toast.'
Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if He really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, 'Debbie, your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!' You know, life is full of imperfect things.....and imperfect people. I'm not the best housekeeper or cook.
What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults - and choosing to celebrate each others differences - is the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And that's my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of GOD. Because in the end, He's the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where burnt toast isn't a deal-breaker! We could extend this to any relationship in fact - as understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!! "

"Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket but into your own."


Tuesday, February 16, 2010

LOVE is like a cafeteria line...

As Valentine's day is approaching, most people think about their loved ones,
but what makes me ponder is the very different concepts of Love,
all people say they "love" someone... but it really differs how they define it!

my idea about it? can't explain it in just one entry! :-)
enjoy this small article, and have a happy Valentine's!

"Love… bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

Wouldn't it be nice if love were like a cafeteria line? What if you could look at the person with whom you live and select what you want and pass on what you don't? What if parents could do this with kids? "I'll take a plate of good grades and cute smiles, and I'm passing on the teenage identity crisis and tuition bills."
What if kids could do the same with parents? "Please give me a helping of allowances and free lodging but no rules or curfews, thank you."

And spouse with spouse? "H'm, how about a bowl of good health and good moods. Bit job transfers, in-laws, and laundry are not on my diet."

Wouldn’t it be great if love were like a cafeteria line?
It would be easier.
It would be neater.
It would be painless and peaceful.

But you know what? It wouldn’t be love.
Love doesn’t accept just a few things. Love is willing to accept all things.